How to Really Love a Woman

Many men think they know how to love a woman, but you can see evidence of the contrary in the fact most relationships don't last six months nowadays. What a man calls love and what a woman calls love are two different things. A woman constantly needs reassurance of love in the relationship. Many men however, still act like they are cavemen. What I mean is they are excited about the chase, and they will do anything to win the girl. Once they achieve that goal, the effort and the love begin to fade. Here are some tips on how to find the woman of your dreams, and if you already have her, some tips to keep her.


This may sound extremely simple, but tell her you love her. Tell her when she least expects it, and tell her often. A sure sign that you are not telling her enough, is if she asks you the question, "Do you love me?". The reason why she is asking is because she is unsure if you really do, so you can gain major points by telling her often. Write it on her mirror, leave her a note, text her, just tell her.


When you were courting or chasing the girl in your life you loved everything about her. Now that you have her, you see flaws and you let her know about them. Stop critiquing your girl about her short comings, and love her for who she is, completely. You woman may be sexy, intelligent and even generous, but that isn't why you love her. You love her for all of what she is. Tell her you think she is sexy once in a while, and watch her eyes light up.


If you want to make your relationship last, you must live in the moment. What I mean is, do not dwell on the past. Do not bring up ex-boyfriends, ex-lovers or times you remember your girl was less than faithful. If you are committed to be in a relationship you need to stop looking in the rear view mirror, and drive forward. The easiest way to kill your relationship is to berate her over things that happened in the past. Let it go, or you will be soon letting her go.


You want your girl to love you, then start by loving yourself. If you love yourself, you will receive love in return. If you are telling yourself good things and loving the person you are, you can only express that same love to the woman in your life. She will see and feel your love and give it back to you ten fold.


Do you find yourself saying that your wife/girlfriend doesn't know you? Want to know what that really is saying? You don't understand the woman in your life. If you want your relationship to grow, you should get to know her better. I mean all her likes, dislikes, just take a genuine interest in her and watch a miracle happen. She will see you are interested in her brain and not just her body. She will see you in a whole new light.


Pay attention to her as well, because if you don't, there is a guy nearby that will. Did you know that many of the habits your girl has, that you think annoy you to no end, are simply her way of trying to get your attention? Woman love attention, it is very simple to miss this tip if you aren't aware of it. You will begin ignoring her annoyances, when in reality they are attempts to get you to come closer to her. You do not have to be a puppy on a lease around her, just give her some unexpected attention. Tell her that her shoes look amazing, tell her that her hair looks nice, ask her how was her day, and genuinely pay attention.


One final tip is to never go to bed angry. This can save your relationship if you practice it enough. If you ignore it, your fights will become more frequent and will eventually end the relationship. If you have a fight, cool off, then go to her before bed and tell her you love her and do not like fighting. Agree to disagree and sleep together in the bed. You need to both be grateful for every day you two are together. Try telling her everyday, in different ways that you love her. You will build a strong unit that will last a long time.

Are Arranged Marriages such a bad idea?

No matter what anybody says, 99% of people are horrible at dating. Even outside of awkward, silent first dates, people often spend months pretending to be someone they aren’t, or endless hours feigning interest in another person’s passion just to look good. We all seem to set ourselves up for failure without even realizing it.


Honestly, there’s something to be said about arranged marriages: other people who know two individuals intimately put them together for the rest of their lives. While there are certainly faults with this, it kind of makes sense: both parties know the worst aspects of the two people they’re putting together, and the new couple has to make it work.


Of course, there are so many pitfalls to an arranged marriage that putting that out there as an alternative to dating is borderline insane (a trait we wouldn’t want someone to see on the first, or twentieth, date). And that’s where TopMatch UK comes in. Unlike other dating services, we provide you with a personal dating consultant to help match you to someone else with the same goals, interests and beliefs as you. However, unlike an arranged marriage, you still retain complete control over your love life! Not only will your potential mate work well with you on paper, but he or she will also be recommended by someone who has a deep understanding of what you need and want in a relationship, making it possible for even the worst daters to find meaningful and healthy relationships.

Finding love on your smartphone

The internet has changed the way we run our lives completely and dramatically. The changes the web has brought are still resonating as traditional high street shopping starts to hit hard times.

But the smartphone is taking things to a new level altogether. It's nothing short of revolutionary.

Apparently, according to Neilsen, 31% of US mobile phone owners had a smartphone by December 2010, a figure that's already looking seriously out of date.

They expect smartphone usage to rise to at least 95 million in 2011.

Gartner research shows 297 million smartphones in use during 2010, 19% of the 1.6 billion mobiles sold that year. Code Research predicts global smartphone users will hit the 2.5 billion mark by 2015 and there are various predictions about how soon smartphones will take over from the humble desktop PC. Some say as soon as 2012.

Many website owners are in a spin because their complicated, resource-heavy websites don't display properly on a smartphone. Luckily the marketing experts at TopMatch saw the writing on the wall and acted accordingly. Their website is beautifully simple and clear, so displays perfectly on a smartphone screen without losing functionality.

All of which means you can use yours to surf around TopMatch matchmaking services, identify fellow professional singles you like the look of and get as deeply involved in flirting as you want to, all without having to sit down at your PC.

Love on the move for an increasingly busy world... that's TopMatch dating!

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Avoid online dating nightmares

We went to dinner with friends last weekend and were regaled with horror stories about one woman's dreadul experiences with an online dating site... which will remain nameless!

On one occasion our friend met someone she thought was lovely but they ended up practically stalking her, to the extent she was actually frightened.

Another two men she connected with sent her photos of themselves stark naked very early on in the process - which is downright peculiar as well as extremely creepy. Apparently they were genuinely surprised and offended when she objected and cut contact. It makes you wonder what on earth goes on in some people's minds!

The last thing you need when you're busy and time-poor is having to repel peculiar, dysfunctional time-wasters. It's enough to make you lose your faith in human nature! Naturally I told her about TopMatch, where absolutely nobody gets through the net without being thoroughly vetted first, in person, by a real, live relationship expert and professional matchmaker.

TopMatch is unique. No other online dating service comes complete with a personal dating consultant. And that's just the beginning.

We're dedicated to providing a dating experience that's genuine, fun and on your wavelength. We've designed our service so it suits the needs of professional people. We're professionals ourselves. So do yourself a favour, forget about the other online dating sites and join us for genuine good times. You're more likely to find the love of your life with us than anywhere else!

Why is it so good to be loved?

Single life can be great fun.

When you're young and carefree there's pubs to go to, clubs to let rip in and flirting to be done.

When you're an older single you can have the time of your life indulging yourself in things you always wanted to do when you were married or living together. Stuff like lying in 'til noon, drinking fine wine in bed, reading all day at the weekend or getting up at 3am for snacks. You can do what you want, when you want, with whom you want.

So why does it feel so good to be loved?

I reckon you can spot someone in love. When you're happy you give off happy signals that other people can pick up a mile off. You look better. Your skin looks great and your hair's shiny. You walk with confidence. Because you tend to buy new clothes you look smarter from the outside too. And you're nicer, seeing the world and everyone in it through rose tinted love shades!

On a more serious side being in love has physical effects too, particularly for men. Older single men don't fare very well compared to older men with loving partners. On average they're less physically well, less healthy, less fit. Older women thrive in partnerships too, being healthier and more resilient than single ladies. When we're in love we're just... better.

It's no surprise really. We're built to live in twos and we actually seem to droop when we're lonely.

Best of all, the love effect doesn't diminish once that first flush of excitement and lust has passed. When you settle into that wonderful place where you love each other more every day and things just keep getting better, it continues. It's like miracle medicine. I should know. I'm still smiling thirteen years after meeting my lovely man.

Professional, single and searching for love? Come to TopMatch and we'll soon match you with someone who dings your bell for life.

Join TopMatch with a friend and only pay one membership fee

Some things are far too good to ignore. Our 'two for one' join with a friend offer is one of them. But why is it such a good idea to team up with a mate on your search for real love?

For a start, going tandem means there's always someone to talk to about the new people you meet, the dates you go on and how you feel about them. Because you're both in exactly the same boat at the same time, you won't bore each other to death!

Double dating can be great fun, an excellent way to meet lovely new people when you tend to be shy and reserved. Breaking the conversational ice is often easier when there's four of you - you can always meet alone for subsequent dates if you hit it off.

You've both got your own Personal Dating Consultant, of course, so there's always someone to talk things through with, whether it's about something simple like what to wear on your first date or more complex like any subconscious barriers you might have against falling in love. But having a friend to talk to as well can be the icing on the cake.

If you're not feeling too confident in yourself, a good friend will talk you up and help you feel better about yourself. And, if you need someone 'in the know' to laugh or cry with, a good friend is just the ticket.

Do you have to join with a same-sex friend? No. If you're female you're more than welcome to join with a male friend and vice versa.

Best of all, when you join TopMatch with a friend we'll only charge you one membership fee. Just split it between you for the professional dating bargain of the century!

Are you ready for a summer of love?

Oh, isn't the summer lovely! But it's even lovelier when you're head over heels with someone special. There's so much to do outdoors and it's great doing it in good company.

If you've just hooked up with true romance via TopMatch, here's some unusual, romantic and fun ideas to whet your appetite and help the love flow!

If you're anywhere near the sea there's nothing better than a day out exploring the coast. If you're hardy types you can get together for a good, long walk or a coastal cycling adventure, complete with a packed lunch or pub food. If you love dressing up and making an impression plan a Jack Vetriano-style beach date, dressed in dinner jacket and ball gown, complete with the poshest picnic you can rustle up between you. Think champagne... but travel on the bus so you can both enjoy a tipple!

There's the countryside too. When was the last time you rode a horse? Or took a stroll in the green stuff? A country walk is one of the most romantic things you can do, ranging across rolling fields, over misty escarpments and through secret, cool forests with dappled pools and sparkling lakes. Take it up a notch and there's always extreme sports to try together, increasingly popular for people of all ages. Bungee jumping, white water rafting, caving, ghyll scrambling...

Are you city lovers? If the thought of being stuck out in the countryside gives you nightmares, take a train to an exciting city or town near you. It's great fun when neither of you has been before - you can discover cathedrals and museums, scenic alleyways and secret gardens, amazing architecture, restaurants and pubs, shopping centres and ancient monuments together, topping off your day with a show or an evening at the cinema

Last but never least, there's your garden. It's private, you've got everything you need to hand indoors and a mellow barbecue can deliver just as much fun and romance as the most expensive restaurant. Especially when you've had a heavy week!

According to one online dating commentator, singles are 'screaming from the rooftops' for 'new types' of dating sites.

But dig a bit deeper and you find what people like you actually want is an online dating service site that matches your expectations and dovetails with your needs properly. Not yet more gimmicks, gadgets, deals, offers and so-called innovations.

When you're a professional person with a busy, complicated life you want to meet like-minded people, not have to wade through thousands of unlikely candidates that you'd never consider in a million years. The the last thing you want is an 'one size fits all' dating site that wastes your time, money and energy rather than saving it.

We believe the solution is to keep things simple.

There's specific gay dating sites, religious dating sites, over 50s and under 30s sites. But we're the only place where computer technology blends with personal support, face to face and over the phone, to deliver genuine professional matches to hard working, intelligent, time-poor people like you.

Quantity is rarely better than quality. Treat yourself to a matchmaking service run exclusively by relationship professionals, for professionals, and cut right to the point!

The only thing dating with TopMatch CAN'T do for you!

Have you ever known someone who looks gorgeous, you get on brilliantly with and who likes all the same things as you... but for some reason you just don't fancy them?

Isn't it strange? You'd think all the key ingredients were in place. So why are you 'just friends'? And why don't you fall head over heels in love?

The answer lies in your immune system. Put simply, if your immune systems are too similar that all-important physical attraction just doesn't arise. But when your immune systems are different enough and everything else is right, boy do the sparks fly!

How do we tell whether someone's immune system is different from ours? We do it unconsciously via our sense of smell and it's incredibly subtle. If he or she doesn't 'smell' right, it's very unlikely that love is on the cards.

It's an evolutionary imperative, vital for creating healthy children with what scientists call 'hybrid vigour'. It happens to plants, insects, fish and our fellow mammals too. In a purely physical sense, opposites really do attract!

Sadly matching immune systems is the one thing that dating with TopMatch can't do for you. Or not yet, anyway! But happily, everything else is taken care of. Your Personal Dating Consultant, with the help of our state of the art computer software, will match all this and more to identify lovely people on your wavelength:

• your preferred physical attributes - things like height, build, hair and eye colour
• your interests and hobbies - whether you're into extreme sports or bird watching, cinema noire or computer games, cooking or interior decor
• the things you want out of a relationship
• your outlook on life, the universe and everything

Do it our way and you're almost there, saving all sorts of hassle and heartache. The 'smell' bit is up to you!

Single professionals: Can you afford not to join TopMatch?

Times are tough. Food prices are increasing. The cost of petrol is going through the roof, with no sign of going back down for a while. The recession rumbles on across Europe and beyond.

All of which means TopMatch membership is a better deal than ever. How come? Because it saves you money as well as finding the love of your life.

Say you're looking for love the traditional way by going out and about, socialising and widening your social circle. There's the cost of travelling, whether you're staying sober and taking the car, or using a cab or bus. Then there's drinks. If you're on mainland Europe things aren't too bad. But UK duty and tax means your humble pint seldom costs less than £3.50. Wine by the glass is extortionate in pubs. Spirits are hideously expensive. And that's without eating out, which is excellent fun but rarely cheap.

At the risk of sounding pessimistic it's probably not too clever, from a financial perspective, to hook up with someone lovely who lives miles away either. Imagine the travel costs! And the energy levels required. I'm feeling tired already.

When you take your search for true romance online you sidestep all these costs as well as potentially saving your sanity, health and well being! Instead of spending endless nights out and running yourself ragged all the way to the poorhouse, you spend enjoyable quality time on-screen, identifying potential soul mates.

Because our Personal Dating Consultants meet all our members in person you save money and potential heartache by preventing time wasters, liars and frauds getting aboard. And you'll have their ongoing support throughout the process, making it much more effective and efficient than regular online dating.

So if you're feeling the squeeze, pop along to TopMatch and cut the cost of finding true love!